Commitment is a very strong term and one of the most dreaded ones too. I will call it a wrong doing of our society, they made us believe that commitment is to the one you owe everything (your spouse). People are scared and commitment phobic when it comes to the decision of choosing your life partner because then you are entitled to spend your life with them, share everything with them and truthfully speaking talking to the other sex becomes a crime, it becomes an obligation does not remain a commitment any more.
One day a friend just asked me what commitment means to me (actually started with me laughing at his so called commitment phobic state). He told I'm committed to you because I choose to be by your side through thick & thin. I am committed to my family to protect them, towards my other friends for whom I will do anything I need, I can't just be obligated to be committed to someone who I don't want to commit to. On thinking over what he said I believed every word he said, it was so true. I cannot be committed just because someone is my spouse and people like us are termed commitment phobic because definition by the society states that. And honestly why only blame the society me, you everyone follows it blindly without asking the simplest of question "Why?". Because from childhood we are snapped at whenever we ask why because there are no answers to some questions. Trust me no questions are there without answers, we are just afraid to find the answers, or rather question authority.
Being committed to someone out of marriage is not breach of trust, commitment is not a crime. Every relation in our lives deserves our commitment, people we love and care for do need our commitments. Give every relationship the space and time to flourish and commitments will be heart to heart. Don;t let anyone tell you that this is wrong till they are able to give you a valid reason other than "log kya kahenge" (this is the most common torture in India). It is we who have to be the change to see the change, society is nothing but a bunch of us. Be committed to your work, your family, your friends & surely your better half.
One day a friend just asked me what commitment means to me (actually started with me laughing at his so called commitment phobic state). He told I'm committed to you because I choose to be by your side through thick & thin. I am committed to my family to protect them, towards my other friends for whom I will do anything I need, I can't just be obligated to be committed to someone who I don't want to commit to. On thinking over what he said I believed every word he said, it was so true. I cannot be committed just because someone is my spouse and people like us are termed commitment phobic because definition by the society states that. And honestly why only blame the society me, you everyone follows it blindly without asking the simplest of question "Why?". Because from childhood we are snapped at whenever we ask why because there are no answers to some questions. Trust me no questions are there without answers, we are just afraid to find the answers, or rather question authority.
Being committed to someone out of marriage is not breach of trust, commitment is not a crime. Every relation in our lives deserves our commitment, people we love and care for do need our commitments. Give every relationship the space and time to flourish and commitments will be heart to heart. Don;t let anyone tell you that this is wrong till they are able to give you a valid reason other than "log kya kahenge" (this is the most common torture in India). It is we who have to be the change to see the change, society is nothing but a bunch of us. Be committed to your work, your family, your friends & surely your better half.
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